One night I was lying in bed listening to a true-crime podcast as one does before bed.
I thought about all the things I want to do and how I haven’t done them yet.
Everyone else is doing it.
What if the answer is no?
No one is going to care?
None of these things are true, of course, but as I listened to the story of another cold case, I thought they were.
The next morning I woke up and took out my manifesting journal. I started keeping one separate of my other journal because I only wanted good, positive vibrations. It makes sense to me.
I wrote what I wanted with FIVE12 specifically, what I wanted for my health, and life in general. I got specific as possible, then got to work.
Then I made a mental list of places and people I wanted to work with, why, and how.
For me, this makes it easier to pitch because I have a purpose for contacting them and it lessens my fears just a smidge.
One day while I was working I asked myself, “What is fear?”
My girl, Google, defines fear as:
An unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain or a threat.
To be afraid of (someone or something) as likely to be dangerous, painful, or threatening.
Let’s work with the verb.
There are things we should be fearful of-
Man-eating sharks, though staying out of their home re the ocean would eliminate this fear.
Fries being cold when we get home, but this is also why you eat them in the car.
Missing a connecting flight. Have you been stuck in the airport and have your entire trip ruined? It’s like a tossed salad made of iceberg lettuce, carrots, and red cabbage without dressing.
I’m not saying your fear of starting and putting yourself out there isn’t a legit fear. It is.
What you won’t do, what I won’t let you do, is let that fear stop you.
“But there are a lot of bloggers!” OK, what about it?
“I’m just another event planner.” Hmmm, sounds fake. What’s the real deal?
“Don’t I need to be an expert first?” You know that’s not true.
These thoughts make fear bull****.
It’s bull**** because it makes you think of all the excuses for you not to do something.
Then you procrastinate on doing that something you wanted to do.
You talk yourself into thinking you’re not good enough or you’re not ready enough. Guess what? None of us will ever be ready enough, so get over it (said with love).
Fear is bull**** because it makes you doubt your gifts and blocks you from reaching people who need you.
So how do you get over it?
One, realize your fear is normal. It’s normal bull**** that’s part of growth.
Two, kick its ass. You can do this by:
Journaling it out. You don’t have to start off with, “Dear Journal…” just write it out.
What are you scared of? Why are you scared? Where does it come from? Dig DEEP.
Next, write solutions to these questions. They’re in there, you just need to think. A lot of times you’re thinking in your head and it needs to come out.
Can you solve it by reaching out to someone you look up to? Members in a Facebook group? A mentor? Do you need to invest time into learning a system that will help you over time?
Three, work through it. Sorry, one and two will not cure fear. The best way to get rid of fear is to work through it. I bet you’re not starting that thing, whatever that thing is, because you’re scared.
What if you worked while scared? Sounds silly? OK, but it’s even sillier not to start because you’re scared. Just sayin.
Look, fear is bull**** if you haven’t noticed by now. I do empathize with you because I have fear too. But I also want to win, and I want you to win, so let’s kick fear in the face and do the things we want to do, OK?
Love and elephants,